” Very slowly, as in a movie process of fading out, when I read, the world disappears. I remain alone inside the world of the story. It is my favorite feeling in this life.”
This is Haruki Murakami’s way of describing something that is very identifiable when we experience it, though it is hard to put in words and to rationalize: optimal experience.
“The joy we get from living, ultimately depends directly on how the mind filters and interprets everyday experiences. Whether we are happy depends on inner harmony, not on the controls we are able to exert over the great forces of the universe. (…)
Since I first heard about Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s work Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience I’ve read dozens of articles about him, his investigation, and his ground-breaking findings. However, I had never read his book. Big mistake. His conclusions are nothing short than a before and after in the way we pursue our well being through experience. By just reading articles about his work, I had just accessed to a tiny bit of this masterpiece and not to the first-hand experience of one of the most essential books of our times.
The secret is not to reach the destination, it is to lose ourselves on our way there.
Wish you a great reading and better connections!
PS: you will have hundreds of summaries of Csikszentmihalyi’s ideas online, but if you have the chance, trust me, don’t miss this book.
Oil painting. Rain’s Rustle by por Leonid Afremov
Having a life and living it adequately can be considered quite a miracle if we see it in perspective. Having the freedom to choose is an exclusive humanly privilege that is not always used appropriately.
A few days ago, when a difficult something at work came up–those situations that are hard to solve and are generally solved incorrectly because they take time, effort and thinking— I remembered with admiration the book by Fernando Savater, Amador. I definitely confirmed that it is an essential for those who wish to pursue a better living.
“As opposed to other living beings or inanimate ones, humans are able to choose their way of life. We can embrace what we consider correct (…). Therefore, it seems sensible to watch carefully what we do and make sure we acquire a certain know-how in terms of living that allow us to get things right. It is to that knowing-how or art of living that we call Ethics.”
Although it is labeled as a work for youngsters as it was written in the format of a letter for the writer’s son, Amador as a representative of a generation of adolescents, it is, I believe a book for anyone wishing to reflect on his or her ways in life.
“Ethics is nothing less than the rational attempt to find out how to live in a better way. If it is worth getting interested in Ethics, it is because we like the good life.”
I wish you an insightful reading!
When it comes to educating for more efficient results, there is and there has been a lot of talk on what “should be”; however, it seems that we all somehow know what needs some to be achieved: children with excellent academic skills, prepared to enter in a competitive world and who happen to enjoy going to classes and learn.
The school with those characteristics exists. At least there’s one we know about because it has become an international phenomenon and it has a well thought out structure of self promotion. The Ron Clark Academy is a model school who enrolls mostly disadvantaged children and transforms them into top-notch students. The recipe? A staff of talented, committed teachers, academic rigor, strict discipline rules known and agreed, high involvement of parents and unconventional, fun methodology that includes creating songs and choreographies with mathematical concepts, field trips that include other countries and high profile debates among many others.
Almost Home. Oil painting by Donald Zolan
Take a second to make a mental picture of this:
2029- Huge excitement at home and at school. Great expectations. Graduation year for first graders 2017.
Big challenge ahead.
For them, and for us.
Especially, for us.
For us: the generation in between generations who witnessed the demise of the Industrial era as we were growing, and adapted pretty quickly to an Information Age that has offered endless possibilities, but has also cornered us to some of our humanly boundaries.
However, almost stifled by the new world of data, we were able to perceive it was not going to last too long. Because we are used to changes now. We expect changes. Those big ones, in which you find yourself in the situation of looking back in time and finding hard to see yourself in a before kind of life.
Somehow during the past months I kept coming across the name of Anne Lamott cited by some authors in reference to the elusive art of writing. Bird by Bird: Instructions on Writing and Life, is an honest, moving and sometimes funny account on how you can decide to live your life by accepting and welcoming your vulnerability and being open to tell the story about it.
“Writing can be a pretty desperate endeavor, because it is about some of our deepest needs: our need to be visible, to be heard, our need to make sense of our lives, to wake up, to grow and belong.”
“…good writing is about telling the truth. We are a species that needs and wants to understand who we are.”
Jimson Weed/White Flower No. 1, 1932 Georgia O’Keeffe
After his book, Emotional Intelligence, when I see anything that has the name Daniel Goleman on it, I want to read it. That’s what happened with Focus (2013). At that time, I had this sort of perception that my attention was something I could work on, something relevant for my everyday living.
Right now, I am absolutely certain that the way we are able to direct our attention to what we want will lead us to a better life: in relation to work and productivity or in relation to personal well-being. The author puts in in the words of Yoda “ your focus is your reality”.
Some time ago when I found out about Ryan Holiday, I was deeply impressed by how much this person reads. In his blog (Meditations for Strategy and Life), he shares what he reads, what he learns, out of books and out of life. He’s a very young writer and media strategist who has a striking “résumé”and the more I know about his work, the more impressed I am.
Oil by Delilah Smith It’s my birthday.
The day of your birthday
Birthdays have always been one of the most awkward and hard-to-get situations for me. I’ve had this feeling as if there were some sort of detail about them that I haven’t grasped to be able to enjoy them. I’ve lived all these years thinking that there’s something special I should feel that I don’t, and as if there were an attitude which the rest are supposed to see in me. Something I fail to be up to the expectation. I’m sure I’m not the only one.
They are ideas and feelings that allow us to live a perfectly conventional life without much trouble, but they remain, notorious, clinged to our souls as coffee dregs to the bottom of a cup.
When I read Eleven, Sandra Cisneros’ insightful story, a feeling of satisfaction filled my heart, not out of birthdays, but out of the existence of literary works that can shed lights, shake cores or celebrate where there’s hardly any joy to do it. This brief story that is told through a girl on her eleventh birthday, is simply marvelous, because of -among other things- its perspective and because of the naivety of its humor.
This time dear reader, I will not start the post talking about a book, I will end up talking about one. A very old but very special one that had a profound impact in my life, not because of its content but because of the story behind it. The thread that makes the connection between the following tso sories is the impact that a teacher’s expectations may have on us.
If you have felt awkward your entire life sensing that somehow there’s something wrong with you because you’d rather stay curled up at your living room sofa on a Saturday night with a cup of tea and a good book than dress up, go out and have some some drinks with a group of friends at a fancy, loud bar, well, let me tell you Quiet has been written for you, as I felt it was written for me. Many others are claiming the same and feeling quite good about.