“The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.”
English Writer Samuel Johnson
It never ceases to amaze me how, in these few last years, social science has backed up (or thrown overboard) long believed assumptions about so many aspects of our lives: in the personal or professional realm. Giving—as in giving your energy, attention, help, support, time or resources—has long been highly considered as a trait worth cultivating. We’ve known, well… sort of known, that it is the right thing to do. But we’ve never actually proven the extent of the impact it may have on us and our social circles.
So, here it is when Professor and writer Adam Grant comes to tell us that in a world of Givers, Matchers and Takers, the Givers are the ones who can be most successful in the long term or most miserable in the short term when certain relational factors are undermined. Those are the factors that determine the act of giving (and ultimately, our success), and the ones he develops in this revealing book, not only through massive research but also through several, great examples of people in business, politics, sports or education.
“In the mind of a giver, the definition of success itself takes on a distinctive meaning. Whereas takers view success as attaining results that are superior to others’ and matchers see success in terms of balancing individual accomplishments with fairness to others, givers characterize success as individual achievements that have a positive impact on others. They see success in terms of making significant, lasting contributions to a broad range of people.”
Adam Grant’s work certainly changes the way we see our reciprocity styles and those of others, and it may help you make smarter decisions in reference to relationships in order to make you feel in stronger spirits.
As it is quoted and reminded in the book:
“It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling exception, is composed of others.”
John A. Holmes
Wish you all an insightful reading and generous connections!